China experiences some of the highest rates of cyber bullying in the world. As backlash to such a statistic, a new online group has come to the fore, one in which there are no haters and no negative comments.
中国是世界上网络欺凌率最高的国家之一。 作为对这种统计数据的强烈反对，一个新的在线团体已经出现，这个团体没有仇恨者，也没有负面评论。
The “Mutual Praise Group” （相互表扬小组）is an oasis in the desert of online arguments. Whatever is posted in this group shall only find praise from all netizens therein.
“相互表扬小组”（相互表扬小组）是网络争论沙漠中的绿洲。 无论在这个群组中发布什么，都只会得到所有网民的称赞。
The group introduction is concise, simple and straightforward. It is necessary to praise each other, and no selfies or posts about celebrities are permitted. In this mirror of the life of today in which social media transforms people’s spirit is reflected struggles, loneliness, joy, pursuits and the trivial.
小组介绍简洁、简单明了。 互相赞美是必要的，不允许自拍或发布关于名人的帖子。 在当今生活的镜子里，社交媒体改变了人们的精神，反映了挣扎、孤独、快乐、追求和琐事。
Two kinds of posts in the Mutual Praise Group are most popular. Some are from people struggling to speak out about their successes in other groups, in unexpected shows of empathy for those facing failure in their life. A girl who won first prize in Tsinghua University’s Postgraduate preliminary exam, said, “I dare not expose my achievements on WeChat, nor dare I to tell my friends, as I am afraid that my happiness will disturb people who are suffering from the pain.” Since the post, there have been more than 300 replies.
相互表扬群中的两种帖子最受欢迎。 有些人来自那些努力谈论他们在其他群体中的成功，对那些在生活中面临失败的人表现出意外的同情。 一位在清华大学研究生预科考试中获得一等奖的女孩说：“我不敢在微信上公开我的成就，也不敢告诉我的朋友，因为我担心我的幸福会打扰那些正在受苦的人。” 自发布以来，已有300多条回复。
Some netizens tell stories about their studying abroad, passing postgraduate entrance exams and job hunting, how they are steadily moving forward in their lives; cheering symbolic success. Such stories might be mostly the same, but they are really popular, because they shine with a strong resonance of “striving to live”.
一些网民讲述了他们出国留学、通过研究生入学考试和求职的故事，他们如何稳步向前迈进；欢呼象征性的成功。 这样的故事可能大多是一样的，但它们真的很受欢迎，因为它们闪耀着“努力生活”的强烈共鸣。
Another kind of post, however, tends to be much darker. Here, the stories are not so universal and bright, coming from a group of people who are lonely and desperate, eager to be affirmed. Some of them are undergoing chemotherapy, some suffer from paraplegia, some have just lost their relatives in a fatal car accident.
然而，另一种帖子往往更黑暗。 在这里，故事不是那么普遍和光明的，来自一群孤独和绝望的人，渴望得到肯定。 他们中的一些人正在接受化疗，有些人患有截瘫，有些人刚刚在一场致命的车祸中失去了亲人。
One wrote, “I am a homosexual, I am so inferior”. The group members responded by saying, “We support homosexuality, but not merely homosexuality. What we support is the closeness of two hearts to break through the shackles of the secular world. We support every hard-won relationship. What we support is love itself and it has nothing to do with gender”.
一个人写道：“我是同性恋，我太自卑了。” 小组成员回应说：“我们支持同性恋，但不仅仅是同性恋。 我们支持的是两颗心的亲密关系，以打破世俗世界的枷锁。 我们支持每一段来之不易的关系。 我们支持的是爱本身，它与性别无关。”
The appearance of this group is testament to a demand created by people who are under great pressure in their fast-paced society. As such a massive amount of information invades everyone’s lives, it distracts people from noticing their success and congratulating achievement.
这个群体的出现证明了在快节奏的社会中承受巨大压力的人所创造的需求。 由于如此大量的信息侵入了每个人的生活，它分散了人们的注意力，让他们无法注意到他们的成功和祝贺他们的成就。
A member of the group with a history of depression, and remarkable insight into multi-cultural psychology, said, “Praise is something that is particularly lacking in our society. East Asian culture is not good at praise. There are few conscious praises in family education, let alone unconscious praise and encouragement as in western culture. Although each praise may only give a little confidence, but praise over and over again will give people a firmer confidence. Life pressure can be big enough, so we need to be surrounded by warm phrases, or even some blind confidence”.
该组织的一名有抑郁症史、对多元文化心理学有非凡洞察力的小组成员说：「讚美是我們社會中特別缺乏的。 东亚文化不擅长赞美。 在家庭教育中，很少有有意识的赞美，更不用说像西方文化那样无意识的赞美和鼓励了。 虽然每次赞美可能只会带来一点信心，但一次又一次的赞美会让人们更坚定的信心。 生活压力可能足够大，所以我们需要被温暖的短语包围，甚至一些盲目的自信。”
